To ensure survival, people adapt to their surroundings. How one chooses to survive in society is an expression of their values. Conditions that empower an individual will influence their values—it could happen within their community, school, profession, or even a relationship.
You are born into a class, race, and culture. Being alone isn’t a favorable condition for survival. You need other people to survive. Your family. Your community. Your friends can help you realize your full potential. You see your higher self in another person and your love nurtures the emergence of the higher self.
We can enter a contract that may limit behavior, like a non-disclosure agreement or marriage, but the benefits are often worth it. And disciplines can afford us a profession. Given the number of potential competitors, a profession protects itself with barriers to entry, usually in the form of licenses and specialized language. How do you get the license that measures what you’re worth?
Even unconsciously, you assess whether another person can potentially help you, harm you, or neither, they are just another person. The measure of a potential helper tends to be wealth and social status, but the way we value each other is different for every individual. Status isn’t universally recognized. It depends on values created and recognized by a group.